Editor’s note: This article was initially published in The Daily Gazette, Swarthmore’s online, daily newspaper founded in Fall 1996. As of Fall 2018, the DG has merged with The Phoenix. See the about page to read more about the DG.
With finals and graduation well behind us, many students are off attempting to change the world one sharpened pencil and answered call at a time. But while internships, summer jobs, and relaxing on the beach are fun, many Swatties still crave for a date (or hookup, if you so choose!).
It doesn’t matter if you prefer hookups or Swat marriages — being away from other like-minded singles can make summer dating hard. But the Silicon Valley has you covered in the form of the popular location-based dating app, Tinder. I won’t explain how Tinder works, but if you’ve been living under a rock (or deep inside the Swarthmore bubble) here is a good video explanation.
And while some may find the app creepy, it may be one’s best hope for finding that one summer fling. But here are some Tinder dos and don’ts.
1. Have a profile picture that is just you. No group shots! You don’t want an accidental match where your match thinks you are one of your more attractive friends! #awkward?
2. Say you go to Swarthmore on your profile! My friends are split on this, but I’m still all for it. If you’re looking for dates and not just hookups, it’s a great conversation starter and can make you seem ten times more attractive if your match is into the intellectual type. Trust me, I just went on my third date with a Vassar graduate who admits that me mentioning Swarthmore in my profile was a plus.
3. Be honest about what you want. If you just want to hookup, great! Say it! If you want to go on dates, say it! Nothing is worse than grabbing coffee with a match and finding out he only wants to get in your pants.
1. Act like you’re above online dating. We’re all on Tinder. Don’t try to be that “cool” kid who is “just on Tinder for laughs.”
2. Meet up with someone with one picture and no phone number! This one should be self-explanatory. We’ve all seen Catfish.
3. Change who you are to please someone else. If your cutest match wants a guy who plays three sports and loves camping, don’t try to be that person if you aren’t.
And while the above list was created with limited Tinder experience, I’ve now gone on three dates with the same guy I met on Tinder and we agree on three important Tinder rules — be yourself, be honest, and be open.